Wednesday, 9 September 2015

The Day my Best Friend Bit Me! - A Dose of Encouragement 89


When I was young and at primary school I was a "Tom-Boy", wanting to be active, out and about as much as possible and looking for company to play with.


My only sibling is my sister who is 10 years older than me so I didn't have her to play with and sometimes there were not too many other kids around.


I really loved the opportunity to play with the boy who would come to visit his grandparents across the street and the girls from the surrounding streets and stay out as long as possible.


But there were often times when there was no-one around to play with so I found a friend next door.

This friend was often around at the front of the house and he was very easy to chat to so I could go see him a few times a day.

His name was Tim and he was a black, scotty dog.

I used to go and sit on the front step of the house next door and pet him and cuddle him and chat.

He was so familiar with our family that there was never any barking at us just the tail wagging and little jumps of excitement when he thought any of us were going to have time to play with him.


photo credit - Pixabay

My parents were fine with me playing with Tim and knew that I was often on that front step.

I liked dogs and had wanted our family to have a dog as a pet but my sister did not like dogs so I had to be content with Tim next door.

Of course I took Tim for granted and thought he would always be there just when I would feel like going in through the front gate to play with him.

I was sure that he would always be happy to see me, ready to play 
and I would never be "not welcome".

Then there was that one day when I went through that gate and took the two or three steps to the front door to find Tim was lying there quietly not jumping up or wagging his tail at me.  I sat down beside him and put my arm around him but instead of getting the usual happy welcome I felt the pain shoot up my arm as his teeth clamped onto it.

I screamed, jumped up and ran out through that next door gate with Tim hanging from my arm but he let go before I got to our own gate.

I was sore, bleeding (although not too bad because he was an older dog and his teeth apparently weren't too sharp) and so confused that Tim had bitten me.

If I was looking for sympathy I had come to the wrong place because immediately I was questioned by my mother on what had I done to antagonise the poor dog - see how everyone loved him!




Well my arm was bathed and bandaged and I can't remember if I was told to stay inside for a while but I do remember that before long I was back sitting playing with Tim.

The neighbours talked with my parents and were concerned about what had happened and what my parents wanted them to do about Tim.  The result was that none of us wanted anything to happen to him because we all knew the situation had been my own fault.  Who would be so silly as to cuddle a dog that was asleep and wake him suddenly and frighten him especially when in the past few months some teenagers had often been teasing and at times kicking at him through the gate as they walked down our street.

I had not known that Tim, my usually happy friend, had become afraid of these teenagers and hence probably startled by me and reacted out of sudden fear.

Yes it wasn't long before I was back playing with Tim, he was still my friend and I forgave him for biting me but I think there was always just not exactly the same trust there as before.


He was still my friend and I forgave him.

Over the years I have seen friendships ruined over a hasty word, a sudden grumpiness, a searing hurt, a teasing jibe, when people just got so friendly and comfortable that they stopped thinking of situations from the other person's point of view.  Times when people got so careless and thought they could do or say anything just because they thought they were with friends.
Even if the friendships are not ruined they are marred in some way by lack of trust thereafter.

Sometimes we have been the ones to do the hurting and sometimes we are the ones who have been hurt but either way we need to try to consider how the other person felt, what may have been happening to them recently that we did not know about, who had been unkind to them, what had they heard recently, because something had caused a difference on that occasion.

There are two people in a friendship and also two feelings in that friendship and we need to remember to be considerate and kind, honouring the friendship and extending grace to each other in all circumstances.

It may not always come easy but oh it would be great if I could forgive others today as quickly as I forgave Tim.

It is not impossible to do.

As children of God we have the capability of forgiving because we have been forgiven and we have the greatest example of perfect forgiveness in Jesus.


Forgiveness. It is not impossible to do.


What about a letter, a phone call, a little chat?

The practical step needs to be taken to apologise and forgive.

And we can do it!




20 comments:

  1. This is really good! Great reminder!

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  2. Thank you for the precious reminder of how often we choose to toss out friends and even family over our hurt. Forgiveness is a powerful tool we pack at the back of our toolbox.

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  3. I think that the more we love someone, the harder it is to forgive them if they do us wrong. But I admire you that your love and understanding for your bestfriend is bigger than what he's done.

    Forgiveness may not be easy but it is really not impossible.

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  4. My dog is the same way. She is such a lover but her first instinct is to bite if she is woken up. Thank you for this comparison. There are 2 people in a friendship and you may not know what they may have gone through, this is true. It is best to keep open lines of communication in a friendship. Thanks for sharing and blessings from #bloggercaregroup. :)

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  5. It is true that a dog awakened quickly from sleep might consider it an attack. I heard of another case recently where this happened. I am glad everyone forgave Tim and he remained your friend. I enjoyed your application to the story. We an get so comfortable in relationships that we fail to be careful how we speak and act. Thank you for sharing your awesome story with us here at Tell me a Story.

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  6. You have brought a wise word to us all. May we be those who forgive. No, it's not easy, but it is not impossible either. With His help, it is doable. Blessings!

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  7. Great reminder. its never easy but always the best for us. it frees us more so than it does them.

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  8. Sandra, this is such a great reminder that we can extend the same grace and forgiveness to others that we extend to our furry friends. Lord knows I'm often quicker to forgive our dogs for their poor behavior than my own brothers and sisters in Christ. Loved this analogy. Thanks for joining us at #RaRaLinkup.

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  9. It's rough when our friends 'forsake us'--but I've discovered that just like with your incident with Tim, there's usually a bigger picture that we don't understand at the time. Remembering this makes it so much easier for me to forgive!

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  10. Yes and Amen... as Glennon says, we can do hard things! Forgiveness is one of the hardest, but it also can bring us the most freedom!

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  11. Thank you, Sandra, for your words! I am sure it was a really traumatic moment when your "friend" bit you! And, how you pulled in that part about "forgiveness"...so special! You have put it on my heart to reach out to a friend who has "hurt my feelings" in a way...I need to sit down and write her a letter; because we have been "separated" for too long after being friends for so many years!

    Thank you...and blessings!

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  12. Sandra, this is sweet, sweet encouragement. I loved this story and how you folded in the ending. Point made. Encouragement taken! Visiting today via #tellHisstory.

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  13. Sandra, I love this post! The title was a real grabber--and surprise, it was not a child, but a dog! We have forgiven several unintentional dog bites in our family as well...such a great reminder to apply this same forgiveness to our human friends! Many blessings to you ❤️

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  14. What a great parallel, Sandra! Thanks for this great reminder to forgive others. God bless.

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  15. Oh, the 70x7 of forgiveness is a tough command, but God knows our hearts and our tendency to hang on to our "hurts." Thanks for this lovely story with a practical purpose. And I love the picture of Tim.

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  16. This is very timely as my brother has been diagnosed with cancer. He lives in Thailand and I haven't been close for many years. I have communicated to him and feel that we have made our peace. Life is too short. Thank you for reminding us and sharing our story at #AnythingGoes

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  17. A great reminder on being considerate and forgiving. Thank you for linking up with Thankful Thursdays.

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  18. I'm your #livefree neighbor today, Sandra. You're offering us some wise words today. Giving the other person the benefit of the doubt when they hurt us and trying to see where they're coming from is an important part of long-term friendship.

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  19. Thanks again for sharing with #SocialButterflySunday! Hope to see you link up again this week :)

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