The Anniversary Trip We Couldn't Plan - A Dose of Encouragement

In August 1997 Fred and I celebrated our 20th Wedding Anniversary by taking a trip to Hawaii.

A week there Island Hopping in fantastic weather was a real enjoyment for us.

Five years later we headed to the Bahamas for 2 weeks for our Silver Anniversary.

Then in 2007 we took 3 weeks and went to the East Coast of Australia with a layover of a few days in Singapore on the way home.

So August 2012 should have seen us heading off on another big trip but it just didn't happen.

Although we talked about how it would be our 35th anniversary often, we still never could decide where to go or when to go.

Then near the end of the year, our daughter Linda told us she was going to apply to go to South Korea to teach English for a year.

Months later all the applications, online courses, visas etc. had been sorted and she headed off in February 2013 (I wrote about The Day We had to Say Goodbye)

Okay then no prizes for guessing where we did go for our 35th Anniversary trip even if it was almost a year late.

South Korea

We just had to make sure we didn't go when it is too cold, too hot, or too wet in South Korea, because it can truly be too cold, too hot or too wet - we experienced the "too hot".

Oh and shortly after she left she face-timed to tell us she had been allocated to a school on the Coast so wasn't that a bonus too!

We had a fantastic holiday together and when I say together it actually included all five of us.
Fred and I flew over and spent a weekend in Seoul with Linda and met up with an old friend, then this old married couple flew over to Hong Kong for 4 days on our own, and finally back to South Korea to meet our two sons as they arrived to spend the rest of the time with and Linda and us in Seoul and also in Gangneung.

The boys wanted to come to visit Linda obviously but also knew that it would be the last time that this family of five would be together on a holiday as a family of five because later that year we had another special event when Daniel & Suzie got married.

At times during 2012 I had got frustrated because we just could not make a decision about where that anniversary trip should take us o when Fred would get off work to be able to go and sometimes when we can't make up our minds we just let the thing drift on and on.

But this time that indecisiveness was meant to be.

I am a firm believer in the fact that God sometimes holds us back 
from doing certain things at certain times 
because He has other plans for us

and of course

His plans are always BETTER because they are the RIGHT plans for us.

I'm also thankful to God for the way He provided everything for Linda and was clearly guiding her.

On other occasions I have wondered why I seem to procrastinate about something but in the end I realise that it wasn't just procrastination or laziness it was actually God keeping me from feeling ready to proceed with my original plan or thought; even in a small thing.

Yes God cares about the small things too.

The more we acknowledge the importance of God's guidance and look for it in all aspects of our lives the more we will come to recognise the times we are meant to hold back and the times He wants us to proceed.

We will learn to know His direction day by day, bit by bit as we become content to be in His Hands and trust that He is the only one who knows what's best for us.

We only think we know what's best.

He really does know what's best.

If you want to read more about our trip to South Korea you can start here 


  1. I love that insight. Sometimes procrastination is really hesitation because we can sense that God hasn't quite given the go-ahead yet. I guess procrastination is a call to prayer. Thank you!

  2. Yes! I love that we can trust his perfect timing.

    For me it is writing, speaking blogging. I started so many times to blog...but it is only now that the Lord has said yes...go ahead. His timing is perfect.

  3. I"m glad you got to go on your trip after all and that it was such a good experience Sandra! Good perspective on why we sometimes feel we're procrastinating but really it's just waiting for the better option later.

  4. Sandra, I'm stopping by from RaRaLinkup. Your post was fun to read. I love that you and your hubby take big trips to celebrate those milestone years in marriage. We're coming up on 20 next year, and we're talking Ireland. We'll see if God opens that door or not. :) I especially loved the point you made that sometimes God holds us back from doing things at certain times because He has a different plan. When we can yield to that plan, we're so much better off! :)

  5. Good for you! Taking the long view, looking for the hand of God in the delays and disappointments is so much better than just crashing ahead or pouting! Thanks for sharing your story!

  6. Hey Sandra,

    Aren't you glad that God holds us back at times! He does know what is best!

    I don't always love His choices at the time, but often I am so grateful for those closed doors later!

    Thanks for sharing a very wise and practical post today. I appreciate your reminders like this one, "We will learn to know His direction day by day, bit by bit as we become content to be in His Hands and trust that He is the only one who knows what's best for us."

    Came over on FaithnFriends.
    Hope you have a blessed day~

  7. what a beautiful story - glad you had a chance to visit with your daughter no matter how far away (and South Korea is one heck of a trip). Traveling is such a joy. Blessings!

  8. I loved your story about anniversaries and especially the trip to Korea. Many Years ago, our Daughter Judie who was in the Air Force told us Korea and the Air Force are offering a family 10 day tour. Our other daughter and I want for the awesome trip. Judie taught us to say "Better Price" when we shopped.
    Sorry I am so late in reading your shared post . I do so much appreciate your entries with us here at Tell me a True Story.

  9. So many wonderful places to visit and awesome memories! Thanks for sharing with #SocialButterflySunday! Hope to see you link up again this week :)

  10. Hi Sandra,
    I'm your neighbor at Holley's link-up today. What lovely trips you've taken and what adventures they turned out to be! I can so relate when I wait or think I'm procrastinating to later understand that maybe it was God's timetable and not my own to worry about, after all. Enjoyed my visit here today!

  11. It's amazing at how God's timing always brings with it good things.Thanks for linking up with Thankful Thursdays.

  12. I have a friend who's daughter is in her 2nd year of teaching English in South Korea and she loves it. I think that celebrating your 35th with your kids together in South Korea was a lovely way to celebrate your life together. Thank you so much for sharing your post at the Over the Moon Link Party.